So often I find myself thinking about love, life, happiness, what’s next on my plate that I can tackle, and what light I will follow into my next expedition. All of those things are amazing to think about, but sometimes they can make your mind spin out of control. All of the what ifs and wills of this world are great to ponder, but we also have to think about all of the here and the right-now thoughts as well. It is great to have fantasies, but it is equally great to intertwine those fantasies as a part of your reality.
Today was a great day for me — not only because I felt the sun kiss my Philadelphia-cold skin, but also because I was re-inspired to blog my first blog post of 2015! Happy New Year!
Today, I had my first epiphany of 2015. Like I said before, I often let my mind wander; I let thoughts shift in and out of my frontal cortex as if they were waves crashing into an open sea of blue. Most often times, one wave of positivity leads into the next, but sometimes (as a part of the process of thinking and meta-thinking) those beautiful waves crash into a stormy abyss. AND when a storm comes, it is very hard escape. However, it is important that you find your lifeline or that light in between the rainy clouds. For me, it is reminding myself that these thoughts — both positive and negative — are merely JUST thoughts; and what IS important is what thoughts I allow my mind to translate into words or actions. Think about it, your mind does not stop — not even for a second — throughout the day. Do you remember what you were thinking about at 2:30 pm? No, me neither!
Your mind has a lot to think about, to neurally translate (for example the smells you sniff through your nose, or the touch you feel, or the beautiful sights you see), to remember, to act upon, to share… This is why, in the New Year, it is important to respect your thoughts — both good and bad — but remember that they are merely just thought; and YOU have the ability to speak out or act upon your thoughts.
Today, when I had my deep epiphany, I started to activity think about my thoughts. I thought, I thought about my thoughts, I translated my thoughts, and I interpreted my thoughts. I let my fears and my goals for the New Year resurface. And this is what I came up with, my epiphany:
Why am I searching for an authentic relationship with a somebody, when what I should be searching for is a great relationship with ‘Life?’
Relationships with people come and go. Sadly, we lose family and friends to death, to new days, and to new beginnings. So, for right now, the relationship I should be searching for relentlessly is my one relationship with Life. We have this amazing thing called days, where we are able to live, love, and feel — hopefully happiness more than sadness, but moreover, we are able to feel all of what this world offers to us. And sometimes we get into a relationship with stress or a relationship with days that do not go as planned… AND sometimes we do not get what we want, but the lessons we learn from those days, that I am calling “relationships” are more valuable than those days that went as planned.
As I write this, I am challenging YOU, as your relationship with Life unfolds this year, to create one of the best relationships with “Life.” Instead of looking at life scared, instead of putting up walls to block out the could-be hurt feelings, I challenge you to look deeply at those walls as something useful. Ask yourself what is hindering you from being the best version of yourself today; ask yourself why you have put up those wall; and ask yourself how, this year, you will work on destroying or changing those walls from hindering what could be or who you could be.
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes, we need those jaded experiences, or we need things not to work out because the lessons we learn from those experiences are more powerful than having everything go your way.
As I jump into this new year, I dare you to use what happened yesterday — the stress you felt from getting turned down, the stress you felt from a loss, the sadness you felt from not getting your way the first go-around — as something that will lead you to an even greater future!
Looking at Life this way may help turn those thoughts – both good and bad – into more positive actions and experiences. This 2015, we need to change our outlook: It truly is exciting to be turned down for things because it means WE are that much closer to achieving the things that WILL work out!
Happy New Year and Happy Life!
xoxo,
calcal