The in-between stages can be difficult and challenging, not only for the person going through the process, but also for his/her support team.
Sometimes, the fear of striking out can keep us from playing or re-entering the game. In other words, sometimes the anticipation of what is to come and the fear “failing” one’s own expectation can paralyze us from moving forward. BUT it is in these trying times that we MUST keep treading on.
I can be a testament of this. I am caught in this “in-between” stage — the stage of knowing where I want to be and what I want to be doing in life and yet fearing how and when I will get to that next stage. For me, trusting the process can be hard; and letting fate take hold of what I would rather control is even harder.
However, through this whole process there have been a few strategies that have helped me continue to persevere through my own negative and self-limiting thoughts:
- Make a list of your people, your places, and your past. First, allow yourself to remember those on your team, those who have and will support you through the process no matter what the outcome is. Second, take note and surround yourself in places that provide you with comfort. This place could be your place of worship, it could be a scenic trail along the ocean’s shore, or it could be your local coffee shop surrounded with the smell of sweet pastries and morning coffee. Whatever your place is, make sure it provides you with a sense of tranquility and peace of mind. Third, allow yourself to recall those special moments in your life that have gotten you to the place you are now. We all have ups and we all have downs, but this is your time to remember the special, positive moments that can allow you to bask in the gratitude of life.
- Don’t forget to make time for the people and activities that make you feel happy. If you’re an outgoing individual, do not forget to make time to meet new people or share in relationally-rich activities. If you like serving others, make service an important aspect of your weekly or even daily schedule. If you’re an active individual, do not forget to make time to exercise.
- Take time to relax. Remember, your brain and your body are active organs and they need time to rejuvenate and regenerate. Even if it only for a short period of time, allow your body and especially your brain (the primary system of energy depletion) to relax.
- Take time to be thankful. Either write in a journal or create an active gratitude wall where you can add new, daily items to your gratitude list. Remember, happiness persists when gratitude exists.
- Be easy on yourself. You only have one life to live; why are you going to be your toughest critic? This point is exceptionally hard for me to remember, too. However, when looking outside of your circumstance, humble confidence cannot hurt you. Be nice to yourself and allow yourself to make mistakes, to learn, and to grow.
You will accomplish your dream. I believe in you.
Believe in yourself,